Thursday, January 18, 2007

Mr. Incredible Needs a Cheerleader

When I was in high school, I was a cheerleader. I loved the flirty little skirt, the pompoms, and - admittedly, being the center of attention. Of course now, that I've gotten older, and my understanding of modesty has matured, I blush to think of our cheerleading outfits, and some of the cheers we did. However, that being husband needs a cheerleader. Thankfully, Mr. Incredible's cheerleader doesn't have to wear a super tight sweater and a really short skirt (not that he wouldn't like it! ;-) ), but she definitely needs to be a "rah rah" girl.

One of the most important jobs I have as a wife is to be my Beloved's #1 cheerleader. When the rest of the world is against him, I should be for him. I should be the one person he can come to and find shelter with. He should be confident that he can come to me and know that I will build him up, I will support him, I will adore him and love him ~ no matter what. That doesn't mean that I can't carefully talk to him about areas that he needs to grow in or sin that I see in his life. But, I do need to be careful. It is easy for me to tear him down. To speak to him more like a child than a man, and show him disrespect, especially if I feel that I'm in the right. Sometimes, in fact probably more often than I would care to admit, it is more effective to keep my mouth shut and just pray for him. To lift him up before the Throne of Grace, and leave him in the Father's hands.

The great thing about being Mr. Incredible's cheerleader is that it focuses attention on him, not me. It strengthens him. It fortifies him to go out into the world, day after day to provide for his family, and minister in whatever way God has for him. In return, I get to be married to a real man who is secure in who he is. I get to be cherished, because he knows that I adore him.

In the end, it's a win-win situation for both of us.

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